It is not an attitude of pride, but of congruence. You will continue to love them but with another perspective, from another level of understanding, comprehension, consciousness and awareness.
It is the most difficult thing you will have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important.
Stop linking yourself to those who are not ready to love you.
Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to listen.
Stop helping people who don’t want to change.
Stop appearing for people who are indifferent to your presence.
Stop giving your love and energy to people who are not ready to love you.
Stop indulging in the impulse that will steal your time, your energy and your sanity.
When you begin to fully and deliberately participate in your life with joy, with self love, with self compassion, with determination and with commitment, not everyone will be ready to meet you there.
When this happens, don’t change who you are to appease. This is the biggest mistake you will make my darling.
This means you have to get away from the people who are not prepared to be with you. They are not ready and may never be ready to meet you where you are – as you are.
If you are excluded, subtly insulted, forgotten or easily ignored by the people you spend your time with, you are not doing yourself any favours by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
The truth is, you are not for them and they are not for you.
That is what makes it so special when you find the few people with whom you feel connectedness, love, peace and genuine friendship with.
You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not.
The more time you spend trying to force someone to be with you when they are not able or do not want to, the more time you will be depriving yourself of that same connection that is waiting for you elsewhere.
But the longer you stay involved in the familiarity of people who use you as a cushion, a background option, a therapist and a strategist for their emotional work, the longer you stay out of the community you crave.
What you give to each day is what will create more and more in your life.
What you give your time to is what will define your existence.
When you realize this, you will begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend your time with people who do not contribute to you.
Protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a haven where only people who genuinely care, genuinely listen and genuinely connect without hidden agenda are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving people.
You are not responsible for convincing them that they want to be saved.
Let go of people who are not ready.
Because that is not Love my darling.
That is Attachment.